Pleasures of Charity

There are many things a person can do in life to approach happiness, a temporary happiness that is limited to the action itself and to its validity. A completely different taste of eternal and everlasting happiness is that a person can   sense and grace when devoting his whole life and actions to charity. It does not mean the action of giving money to the poor , or feeding a hungry person; it rather conceives a more elegant significance. Charity , through its broader sense and conception, means a tolerant smile to a little child , a compassionate hand to an old, an understanding and helpful guidance to a troubled teenager, a cheerful greeting to a neighbour, and so  many other human values are concealed into this aspect. As a matter of fact, it is a whole life style that provides a deep sense of self-relief, satisfaction, modesty and social bonding. Adopting this aspect as a human behaviour reflects a sense of social dignity and revelation to overcome self-centred attitude and ignorance of the other. It is an educational duty to implement such concepts in our daily life with our children and of course in school curriculum.

A question appears to the mind: what is the relation between Charity as a human behaviour  and Emotional Intelligence?

Is it true?

Three years ago, I was watching a program on a TV channel that covered different educational and family issues.The guest of the program shed the light on misconceptions of  education and the failure of some practitioners of the field to revalue these misconceptions . He discussed the old saying that we are all familiar with; "a teacher is like a candle that consumes itself to enlighten others' way" and he disapproved the whole idea commenting that teacher's role has been culturally and meaningfully misunderstood . The guest, who is a professor of Education, stressed that we no more need  teachers  to be consumed in order to enlighten and guide others , we need them to maintain, develop and  progress their abilities while continuing their active and evolving guidance. I was really grasped by the analysis as it seemed quite appealing. Sometimes we take things for granted,or adopt  certain view points  just because they were claimed by someone in authority ( teacher,parent...), not because we approve them, we truly need to be open-minded.Maybe we should re-overview our educational aspects and concepts trying to be  practical rather than theoretical,and rational rather than emotional, otherwise we  will end consuming ourselves for the sake of just confirming others' beliefs.

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is a modern concept referred to nowadays as a role factor for success. It is no more acceptable to be intellectually intelligent in order to achieve your goals ; it is rather important to master the emotional mechanism that supports your enquiries and leads your attitude toward  a constructive personality ; so it is all about being "heart smart" not "book smart".
The ability to identify , understand, manage and control your own emotions and feelings and the ability to recognise the emotional state of others make you a brilliant communicative person who interacts securely and effectively with his surrounding.

Emotional Intelligence cannot be learned through the standard academic way , it is rather acquired and learned through emotional interaction by means of sensory, nonverbal,and daily life behaviour.
The first step to such skill , according to many specialists of the field, is the child-parent relationship.

As educators aim to constructing a highly motivated and successful generation , they actually need to go beyond the traditional teaching methods. They eventually represent a role model to their students, so they are deeply committed to reflect an intellectual-emotional- balanced character. Educators must understand the individual differences of their students , read their emotional awareness, and recognise their demand for self-esteem. They also have to realise the ultimate goal of their mission as builders of nations and societies , not  mere transformers of  information . Teaching students how to control anger, how to maintain social relationships, how to realise responses of others, how to overcome hardships, how to actualise nonverbal communicative skills positively, and many other emotional techniques and strategies ; is quite important in order to achieve human and social success.

The one who overcomes his own self is more brave than the one who conquers a city.
(an Indian proverb)

be careful, but do not be slow...............

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